We have all heard the phrase, "You have to love your self first". As a professional psychic, I have heard this quite a bit over the years. As a clairvoyant, I can "see" or "feel" what is actually happening in a person's life and what they can do to get more balance in their lives if they really want to change to occur.
Most people seem to say it more than once in their life, but fail to realize what it actually takes to begin the process of loving one's self. This is a monumental job which most people are undner-qualified to take one. When the phrase, 'You have to start by loving yourself' is used on a person who is already overwhelmed, they usually just tune it out because they have no idea how to being the act of taking care of the self.
Most of the time when we hear, "You have to love yourself first", the person saying it is trying to help. Unfortunately, what often actually happens is just the opposite of the intention behind the comment. The emotional damage increases as the person experiencing the pain feels even more alone.
What people really need is just someone to listen to them. They are not really hearing what you are saying and feel a stab of pain and even more over whelmed when they hear words like this.
1. I don't really know any other thing to say that will help
2. If only you'd do what I tell you to do, everything will get resolved
3. Quit complaining and do something about it
4. I cannot do anything about your problem, so just do what I tell you
Generally, the person who is in trouble recoils, feels rejected and begins to isolate themselves because they are not being heard which results in the pain increasing. That's when psychics usually hear from clients; when they are at their wit's end and want help in resolving the problem.
People need to be treated with kindness and compassion when they are deep into emotional trouble. This helps them to help themselves. Here is an clear explanation of what should happen when picturing your 'self' saving your 'self':
Your young child is being ganged up on at recess. Most people run to their crying child and pull them out of the situation. Parents usually have a fierce innate protection toward their children and run to protect them immediately without thinking about it. You have saved their 'self' by removing them from the situation and then calming them down.
Adults can also get beat up on the playground of life, and, we have to learn to save our "selves". When adults get into difficult problems, they tend to get stuck and hope that, in time, things will change on their own. We buy time, longing for our situation to right itself, while continuing to endure pain and suffering.
When things don't change, it is because no action has been taken has been taken. The cycle begins again, over and over until we are desperate for change and don't know what to do, where to go or who to turn to. Why? The answer to this is because we were not taught how to save our "selves". We complain to our friends, hairdressers, neighbors, counselors, therapists or doctors and still, nothing improves the situation. The act of loving yourself means taking your "self" out of a bad situation by grabbing your own hand and moving to higher ground. Other actions can include things like:
1. Remove your 'self' from the negative circumstances
2. Do things like getting involved in something you have passion for, like a hobby, taking that class, or finishing a degree.
Most people do not want to hear that it is them selves that must make a plan and begin to execute it. Instead, they call psychics for readings and hope that the solution is in that reading. The psychic's role is to try to help you connect with the solutions that are in front of you, not to solve it.
You need to begin the process of loving your 'self' first, so that other people will want to.
Most people seem to say it more than once in their life, but fail to realize what it actually takes to begin the process of loving one's self. This is a monumental job which most people are undner-qualified to take one. When the phrase, 'You have to start by loving yourself' is used on a person who is already overwhelmed, they usually just tune it out because they have no idea how to being the act of taking care of the self.
Most of the time when we hear, "You have to love yourself first", the person saying it is trying to help. Unfortunately, what often actually happens is just the opposite of the intention behind the comment. The emotional damage increases as the person experiencing the pain feels even more alone.
What people really need is just someone to listen to them. They are not really hearing what you are saying and feel a stab of pain and even more over whelmed when they hear words like this.
1. I don't really know any other thing to say that will help
2. If only you'd do what I tell you to do, everything will get resolved
3. Quit complaining and do something about it
4. I cannot do anything about your problem, so just do what I tell you
Generally, the person who is in trouble recoils, feels rejected and begins to isolate themselves because they are not being heard which results in the pain increasing. That's when psychics usually hear from clients; when they are at their wit's end and want help in resolving the problem.
People need to be treated with kindness and compassion when they are deep into emotional trouble. This helps them to help themselves. Here is an clear explanation of what should happen when picturing your 'self' saving your 'self':
Your young child is being ganged up on at recess. Most people run to their crying child and pull them out of the situation. Parents usually have a fierce innate protection toward their children and run to protect them immediately without thinking about it. You have saved their 'self' by removing them from the situation and then calming them down.
Adults can also get beat up on the playground of life, and, we have to learn to save our "selves". When adults get into difficult problems, they tend to get stuck and hope that, in time, things will change on their own. We buy time, longing for our situation to right itself, while continuing to endure pain and suffering.
When things don't change, it is because no action has been taken has been taken. The cycle begins again, over and over until we are desperate for change and don't know what to do, where to go or who to turn to. Why? The answer to this is because we were not taught how to save our "selves". We complain to our friends, hairdressers, neighbors, counselors, therapists or doctors and still, nothing improves the situation. The act of loving yourself means taking your "self" out of a bad situation by grabbing your own hand and moving to higher ground. Other actions can include things like:
1. Remove your 'self' from the negative circumstances
2. Do things like getting involved in something you have passion for, like a hobby, taking that class, or finishing a degree.
Most people do not want to hear that it is them selves that must make a plan and begin to execute it. Instead, they call psychics for readings and hope that the solution is in that reading. The psychic's role is to try to help you connect with the solutions that are in front of you, not to solve it.
You need to begin the process of loving your 'self' first, so that other people will want to.
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